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Sabotaging your true self

Sabotaging your true self

Stop Sabotaging Your True Self Are you a secret self-sabotager? Or do you know full well that you are getting in the way of your own long-standing goals? What might seem like helpful behaviour could well be undermining your future happiness, so you need to learn how to stop self-sabotage in its tracks!     What is self-sabotage? It is often described as any type of behaviour that prevents us from achieving a goal, or something we really want. At first it might seem like a silly sort of behaviour to engage in, but it is often fuelled by lack of confidence, insecurity or fear of failure.   Some of the most common ways people self-sabotage are: Procrastination Self medication (drinking alcohol or taking recreational drugs) Comfort eating Self harm Even when people understand that certain behaviour is self-defeating, it can feel like a massive challenge to overcome it.   6 Steps to Beat Self-sabotage   1: Don’t dismiss yourself if you feel it – People often say it’s stupid but I feel…. Let that thought happen, let the words out. Expressing the truth can give you the power and confidence you need to overcome the negativity.   2: Breathe, keep both feet on the floor, and hold both ESR points* – Fear can provoke strong physical reactions, these simple steps will stop you staying in your emotional limbic brain and encourage you to think with your logical brain   3: Keep breathing – Many people underestimate how powerful calm, regular breathing can be in times of emotional stress.   4: Write down 3 things you would like to...
The power of Journal

The power of Journal

Keeping A Journal Has The Power To Change Your Life   Writing your thoughts and feelings down can help clarify your goals, simplify your life, build better relationships, and identify behavioural patterns. All you need to do is keep your pen moving, and every so often take time to reflect on past entries.   Why a journal works… Sitting down to write a journal gives us space to think, and it allows us to listen to our inner voice. Quite simply, we stop distracting ourselves, and can start joining the dots of life events and putting things into perspective.   The act of writing down thoughts and feelings makes them somehow real. It is an acknowledgement of what you really think. This release helps people to move forward in life because they can “let go”. It can also highlight repeat behaviour; cycles and patterns that may have been too vague to notice before, but become more obvious once you have written them down.   Armed with this knowledge, it is possible to affect change simply by setting intentions for the day, the week or the year. A journal is a gift to your future self, using the lessons of the past to change your life for the better.   The Challenge: How to keep a journal   Aim for a daily entry – either first thing in the morning reflecting on the previous day and setting a new intention; or last thing at night, summarising your day and setting an intention for when you wake. Try to fill a sheet of A4 paper – this goal will stop your...
What I want vs what I should do!

What I want vs what I should do!

What I Want To Do vs. What I Should Do.   Are you challenged by the conflict of what you want to do over what you should do? Is it a difficult decision that brings you down? Do you want to break the cycle? Let me tell you how… Confronted with a choice of doing what you should do versus what you want to do should be a no-brainer, but for many people it causes torment and anguish as time and time again a lack of confidence and self-worth means they come last.   Relinquishing what would make you happy to do what you feel you should be doing results in frustration, anger, resentment and the feeling that you are leading an unfulfilled life.   But what can you do about it? You need to embrace mindful thinking, and only act after consideration.   • Next time you feel you are faced with this type of challenge ask yourself; do I want to do it or simply feel I should? • If you feel like you are being forced into a “should” situation, consider whether it is a one-off or isolated event, or part of a recognisable pattern. • Ask yourself what really gets in the way of you doing what you want to do.   Identifying your obstacles Finding out what is stopping you from doing what you want is very important. Is it that you don’t have the confidence to say no? Do you feel you don’t deserve to do the things that will make you happy? Either way, if you are reading this, it is time...